tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7255343.post1741802034164441488..comments2023-05-18T03:53:34.377-04:00Comments on Captain's Log: The week with LorenCurt Sawyerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14741490462659122545noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7255343.post-24704353675661643902007-08-27T16:23:00.000-04:002007-08-27T16:23:00.000-04:00Cheryl--I loved the Loren stories, thanks! SMYCheryl--I loved the Loren stories, thanks! <BR/>SMYAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7255343.post-25850192114126523722007-08-25T12:58:00.000-04:002007-08-25T12:58:00.000-04:00-r: IMHO kids experiencing meltdowns over not gett...<B>-r: </B><I>IMHO kids experiencing meltdowns over not getting what they want are age appropriate, regardless of the boundaries established. True there may be fewer meltdowns with firm boundaries set, but I'd hate for any parent to feel that their "failed" parenting skills caused a meltdown that is otherwise completely age appropriate.</I><BR/><BR/>That's a huge extrapolation from what I said that I wasn't even remotely implying. I never claimed meltdowns weren't going to happen, nor did I somehow imply if they did the parent had 'failed'. I was just trying to say that if you always let them get what they want then when the time comes that they can't, the ensuing 'meltdown' that follows will be longer and more traumatic on everyone involved. If they know there are times when Mom and Dad say this is the way it's going to be, then when one of those times comes around they may briefly get upset, but they won't completely lose it and they'll come to terms with it sooner (unless they're overly tired, in which case it doesn't matter how well you've previously conditioned them). At least that's been my experience.JamesFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17861155533959393695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7255343.post-1853716468275700372007-08-25T10:24:00.000-04:002007-08-25T10:24:00.000-04:00JamesF:You can't let them decide everything, other...<B>JamesF:</B><I>You can't let them decide everything, otherwise things go bad very fast later on when there comes a time they can't get their way.</I><BR/>IMHO kids experiencing meltdowns over not getting what they want are age appropriate, regardless of the boundaries established. True there may be fewer meltdowns with firm boundaries set, but I'd hate for any parent to feel that their "failed" parenting skills caused a meltdown that is otherwise completely age appropriate.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7255343.post-57336120856154332912007-08-25T01:38:00.000-04:002007-08-25T01:38:00.000-04:00Cheryl: First off I apologize to JamesF -- this is...<B>Cheryl: </B><I>First off I apologize to JamesF -- this is Cheryl writing and no, we have not gotten around to setting me up as a contributor yet.</I><BR/><BR/>Apology accepted. No biggie, Ginger is a contributor on our blog, but still refuses to actually create a post (but has no issue going in to editing a post for minor errors). So you're well ahead of Ginger in that regard even though you're posting as Curt.<BR/><BR/><B>Cheryl: </B><I>I feel a bit cruel somehow for making her walk so far... </I><BR/><BR/>Oh please, there's no way you should feel bad about that. It was totally her decision. And you were absolutely right about not carrying her. She's at the age where she's going to start trying to assert more control over her environment and by not getting in the stroller that was her way of doing it (her picking out the clothes she wants to wear is just another form of this). This is a good thing. And as an added benefit maybe it tired her out some so she went down easier that night. The trick is going to be balancing how much control you give her. You can't let them decide everything, otherwise things go bad very fast later on when there comes a time they can't get their way. But at the same time letting them make their own decisions (good or bad) allows them to form sound judgment.<BR/><BR/>All in all it really sounds like she's maturing really fast at this point.JamesFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17861155533959393695noreply@blogger.com